As Compassionates, we create our own sense of reality by insisting on seeing the goodness in others. Compassionates like focusing on what is good at the cost of what is not good. Simply stated we tend to deny the negative downside, because we do not want it to occur. This means we are susceptible to idealization and have difficulty seeing the parts of ourselves or others that are not complete or whole. Since so much of our reality is based upon our subjective experience of ourselves, we can become moody or distant when we are in a crisis. Most of the time we do not believe we have a right to assert our view on others.

It is our sensitivity that leads us to question our own worthiness. We can take on the problems of others and then beat ourselves up when we cannot solve these problems. We often need to learn the value of boundariesBoundaries: 1. Becoming conscious of where you and others start 2. Developing a … and what is our business versus what is not. Since we can be self-critical, we are particularly susceptible to criticism by others. When others use guilt, blame or shame to make us wrong, we become more set in our ways and can get anchored in self-pity that drives a form of martyrdom. When this occurs, others use it to justify their attacks on us. Therefore, many of us become the emotional caretakers of our family members and are scapegoated by them.

Most Compassionates feel that people without Compassionate energy lack a degree of sophistication, elegance and grace in their social interactions. Since we are sensitive to the acceptanceThe acknowledgment of another for some way of being (click the word for the full definition) of others and desire appreciationAppreciation: 1. The acknowledgment of alignment in our intent with another 2. T… more than others, we can get caught up in caretaking where we do service on automatic pilot. Ironically, this typically occurs when we are overwhelmed and not able to make appropriate choices as to what we can do and what is beyond our current capacity. If we have Compassionate parents or grandparents, we are taught to do caretaking as way to express love.

Compassionates are the glue that bonds most families, even if they are not fully accepted by them.

Compassionates have an outer softness and sensitivity that hides a very strong interior. They are healers, teachers, and assist others in seeing their own loving nature. Most Compassionates do not understand why the world has so much suffering because they see only opportunities to express goodness. They possess innate wisdom, and some would say they have an inner wisdom that comes out in the most pressing situations. This duality between innocence and strength is mirrored in the way they contribute through love and wisdom. It is personally engaging and disarms others through their goodness reflected by their presencePresence: 1. focusing on inner subtle energies layers where perceptions and the ….

They feed themselves as the glue that keeps people from falling apart. Service is their nature, and they find themselves in doing this in all types of professions. They like to be simple and inspiring. They possess a natural abundance and share it gracefully with others. They demonstrate a commitment to sacrifice themselves if that is what required to make things work. While this is noble, it also undermines their ability to continue serving others. The dilemma is that they seek to take care of others before taking care of themselves. This can lead to a self-denial that keeps them from loving themselves. Their ability to connect with others creates safetySafety: 1. maintaining a state of well being in this moment 2. driving force of … and patience in others. This is because they are exquisite at expressing feelings that make individuals tune into their body awareness.

This creates experiences of tranquility in others where they see their creative greatness. It also stimulates others to love themselves. One of the biggest obstacles they need to overcome is a sense of self-pity or hopelessness when they take on people and cannot find a way to support them. While they are naturally caring, it is only when they become caretakers that they get in trouble. This means they can get lost in their own expectations and desire to be dutiful. What they want to express is humility, faithfulness and empathy which is their highest calling. Unfortunately, when they are not supported in their own abundance, they become fragmented and seek to enforce relationships through conditional expressions of love which leads to attachments that do not work.